Obituary of Anthony R. Fecteau

"Tony" Anthony R. Fecteau, 56, of Solon, ME left his earthly home on May 19th, 2022. Ironically it was his Dad's Birthday. Tony was born December 3, 1965, the third child of Jacqueline and Michael Fecteau of Scarborough at the time of his birth. Tony grew up in Westbrook, Maine where he graduated from Westbrook High School in 1984. Tony went on and got his Class A driver's license after having his Class B for a while. He drove all over the United States until a very serious accident took that joy from him. Tony was a "Jack of all Trades - Master of None". He loved learning new things and how to be self-sustainable. Tony met the love of his life, Bobbie, in 2004. It had been a hard and rocky road for both of them. They decided to let Fate lead the way and take a chance on one another. In September 2006, they tied the knot on a beach in Florida. Together they bought a big white elephant and took over the task of renovating it into a "Home" with extremely hard work. A lot of blood, sweat and tears with the help of close family and friends who helped make a dream into reality (still a work in progress). Tony loved carpentry, which he learned from the time he could walk, from his dad Mike. He also loved nature in any manner and being outside working on projects, having some type of fun adventure, or just hanging out relaxing. Tony also enjoyed sharing his love of nature with family and friends. He was a brutal, honest, realist who cared for the earth, people and animals. He had and could have a very gruff, loud exterior but deep down was a big old cream puff especially if he loved and cared for you or something. He would give the shirt off his back if he felt you needed it and would appreciate it. He helped many people out of the kindness of his heart with tasks, chores and even financially if needed. All he wanted was a "Thank You" or a Pay it Forward later in life. Tony always wanted people to do their best and would try to push and encourage them in the right direction. Due to things he went through in life, he didn't want to see others suffer. He could also be a prankster and wanted to leave you with a smile, laugh or WTF. He was brutally honest and some didn't care for him because of that. You either loved or hated him - that was your choice or loss. Tony is survived by his loving wife, Bobbie, who was by his side the whole way fighting cancer with him; daughter Dominique Fecteau and her fiance Andrew Fearon of Lisbon; stepchildren Emily Cummings and fiance Kaleb Gallagher of Mt. Chase and Peter Cummings of Houlton; five grandchildren "Monster, AJ " Andrew Anthony, Charolette "Charlie", Ian, Esmae( Sissy), and Natalie. He Loved his Babies with all his heart and enjoyed taking them on adventures. Tony is also survived by a sister and brother-in-law Suzanne and Chris VanNess of Windham, ME; niece and nephew Kearra and Keegan VanNess also of Windham; sisters-in-law and their families Jeannie (Chris) Labbe of Caribou, ME; Christie Miller of Florida; Tony Love and his extended family who he was grateful he got to know and spend quality time with them and their families. He also leaves a mother-in-law, Grace Hafford of Hodgdon who could/would aggravate the heck out of one another but got very close in the last couple of months of his life. Tony also leaves a brother and sister-in-law Mike Fecteau (Nichole) and their son Michael of Sumner, ME; special Uncle Paul Fecteau who reconnected after many years; Pearl Smith who was with Bobbie the last week of Tony's life for company and support during this difficult time. Tony and Bobbie will be eternally grateful to all those who helped in any manner during this long, hard journey in life. A memorial service will be held at a later date. Memorial donations may be made to a charity of one's choice. Preferably one for humanity, nature, or animal-related. Memories and condolences may be shared with the family at www.directcremationofmaine.com